Mama's Little Boy

Couldn't resist sharing! I am afraid I might be one of those mothers who raises a mama's boy...can one know that when he's not even four months old yet?

I shower him in kisses and hugs and I run to him when he cries and scoop him up in my arms. He gets me every time. I am running less and less quickly to him, but nonetheless, I always go to him. I am not at all a fan of "ferberizing" my kid, which is the "cry it out method" that every one my parents and grandparents generation encourages. I am of the mindset that the only way this little dude knows how to communicate is through crying...although now he gurgles and coos and laughs. But with all the problems we had early on, he is often in pain and if a comforting hug is all I can do to let him know I'm here, then I'll do it.

Bollocks to crying it out! This mama bear is more of an "attachment parenting" type. Cuddles, hugs and security building trust. I'm a firm believer that at three months, he isn't quite at the point of manipulating his mama yet....that will come later and then I can choose to let him fake-cry it out all he wants!

Although as I write this, he's been moaning and whining in his jumper-toy for the last five minutes.

Time to go!

A letter to Tim

Dear Timothy,

I can't believe you've been with us for three months. The time is flying by. We had quite the rough start you and I. With your exciting, but terrifying delivery - you've continued to keep me on the edge of my seat.  At about 3 weeks old you developed pretty nasty colic and cried for up to six hours a day....every day. Nothing could console you, I would hold and rock you and snuggle you as best I could, but some days all I could do was cry right along with you. The worst feeling in the world is knowing that you were in pain and knowing that I couldn't do anything about it. Many doctor visits later and I was repeatedly told that you will eventually grow out of it and while it will be a hard road, we just had to wait it out together.

And so we did. Together we took on each day and worked through the colic spells, the gas pains and the constant discomfort. You were my sensitive little grumpy boy who had a mind of his own and wasn't going to let any "baby guidelines" dictate how you would be. Two episodes of you stopping breathing nearly pushed me over the edge, but you were just making sure I was paying attention....you little sneaker.

You hated swaddling, you hated being in the cradle position, a lot of times you didn't want to be held. But as you grew, so did your personality. You are loud and are sure to be heard, you don't cry, you scream, you have a feisty spirit that while can be exhausting, will serve you well when you are older. You won't be a doormat to anyone!

And today, three months after I brought you home, I couldn't love you more. You are adorable and have an infectious smile that lights up a room. You are the happiest in the early mornings and you love to be sans clothes in all your naked glory. You have started to gurgle and coo and talk the only way you know how and I get tons of smiles from you each day.

You still get your gas pains and cry out in discomfort, but we do our best to work through them and you now let mommy hold and comfort you and snuggle you. A corner has been turned and your dad and I are excited for the next chapter of your very early life.

My sweet, sweet Timothy. We love you and adore you and are so proud that we were picked as your parents in this life.

Much love,
Mum

Clearing out the Dust Bunnies....

Where has the time gone? I have been a horribly lax blogger with minimal updates!

Timothy is a few days shy of reaching three-months old! We have already had an interesting ride. The colic is finally subsiding and it has made a noticeable difference around here. He is having much better days (and nights), while it isn't always great, but it is so much better! He is turning into a smiley little man. We recently started giving him acid-reflux medication which has helped with his constant spitting up and discomfort.

Although I am starting to wonder if it all just is one happy coincidence. Is he just getting older and therefore his digestive system is maturing which is phasing out the colic and the acid reflux medication is really doing nothing? I am not sure, but I don't plan on stopping!

It is still hard to fathom that we've been a parental unit for three months. It has gone by so fast, even with the hours and hours of crying (every day!), it has still zoomed by!

I will post some pictures soon!